So nagtatampururot na si BF/GF mo sa iyo dahil hindi mo siya masamahan manood ng cheesy movie, o kaya nagcancel ka ng "dit" niyo dahil biglang nagpameeting si sir. Tapos makakatanggap ka ng multiple choice question , sino ba mas mahal mo? A) Career B) Ako C) None of the above? (haha) Marahil madalas mo nang naririnig to or nararanasan mismo sa buhay mo di ba? Pag pinili mo career, ang dating eh mukha kang pera pero pag pinili mo naman siya sasabihang kang tanga, eh ano ba talaga kuya? The choice between having a career or making time for love is an extremely personal and individual decision. So let me state it early in this article that the best decision is the one you have made and not what other people told you to do. Nevertheless I will just be writing guidelines and you do the decisions yourself. But wait, did it ever occur to you that maybe, just maybe you really do not have to choose one over the other? In my opinion if the person is making you choose love over career or you yourself is choosing career over love, reflects a deeper underlying problem in your life. Maybe you lack BALANCE. On the other hand , other people would tell you, you cannot have everything, hence you must really make a choice on which ones to have. This is equally right as well. So you see these are two conflicting ideas. But after countless hours that I have spent on the toilet thinking about life and answering your health related questions , I have found a way to reconcile or combine these two different conflicting ideas to make them work towards your advantage. Contrary to popular belief or fairy tales, balance wont help you get everything in your life, so expect to still make hard choices and give up one thing for the other. But , balance in life, will help you get the things that matters most. It is all about making the right decisions on which items to put in on your life's weighing scale and which items to ignore. The goal here is, at the end of the day you will go home happy with just a few bags of your favorite things rather than be stressed out with truckload of groceries. Here is the good news! There are many people out there who have discovered how to achieve a healthy work life balance that allows them to have both. So as you can see, it can be done and it is not impossible, but again, no single friend, well written article (like this), voodoo doll, cute doctor (like me) or magic potion can help you learn how to balance your life. You just have to live your life and use your own brain to decide . So obviously the mere fact that you are reading this article means you have one functional brain in between your ears. So no excuses ok? Career and love fulfill us in different but important ways. Having a solid career gives us a sense of accomplishment and self worth, aside from the practicalities of paying the bills. Many people develop their entire identity based upon what they do, elevating their career to a level of great importance in their lives. Kahit papaano me pakinabang naman pala ang sambayanan sa iyo, hindi lang puro ka pabebe, paemote at pa-likes. Sila yung mahilig sa term na "OT pa more" (overtime pa more) Then there are those who measure their success in terms of having a pleasant and rewarding home life. They develop their identities based upon the accomplishments of their children, and derive their self worth through the love and support of a spouse. Sila yung tipong mag popost sa FB or IG ng almusal na niluto nila (kahit pritong itlog lang naman....) for their hubby/wife or kids, tapos maglalagay ng hashtag #feelingblessed So what happens if you cannot or do not wish to make room in your life for both? While the happiest and healthies;pt people have managed to develop a work life balance that allows for both, it may not be for everyone. Consider these factors when pondering which is more important for you. I just summarized all the 3 real life scenarios that you can possibly be in right now because I know you have a short attention span :p .So just check which one are you right now. 1. Your Career May be More Important When You are Young Many people these days focus on careers first and family later. The reasoning is that, while you are young you have the time and energy to fully devote yourself to a career. Once you get married and begin to build a family, much of your time and energy will be transferred to your family. This is as it should be. You should not start a family unless you are willing to devote time and attention to your loved ones. Many people who accomplish great success in their careers when they are young, and establish financial stability early are more willing and comfortable later on to devote themselves to family. By the time they do settle down, they are more prepared to handle the responsibility. 2. Falling in Love can be Better When You are Older More and more people these days are choosing to wait when it comes to making decisions about family. It is not unusual for people to delay marriage until their late 30’s or even their early 40’s. Delaying family decisions allows you to be better prepared for those obligations, and creates a better likelihood that you are in touch with your most important goals and values. You have had the opportunity to completely grow up, greatly reducing the chances of feeling like you are “missing out.” You have had the chance to purge the foolishness of youth from your system and are now confident with the wisdom of maturity. 3. Choosing Both - My personal favorite, (most rewarding but the most difficult choice to stick with) If you can find a work life balance that allows you to experience the joys of love and maintain a successful career, you will have a truly happy and rewarding life. A loving family at home can help you celebrate all of your successes, and bolster your confidence through your failures. There are many people out there reaping the tremendous rewards that come with including love and work in their lives, and finding the balance that allows for both. A life that only has room for a career, or that includes a clingy love that hinders your personal development, is likely not a lifestyle that is healthy or fulfilling. The truly healthy and well balanced person will recognize the benefits of having both. He or she will take steps to achieve the work life balance necessary to assure the continuation of career growth while nurturing and maintaining the health of personal relationships. It is only when we can maintain this delicate balance that we are living life to its greatest potential. Oh ayan na naman..... Malapit na namang magparinig ang mga friends mo sa facebook, twitter, IG tungkol sa "Balentayms Day". Meron diyan na nageemo, ngbibitter- bitteran, nagpapabebe. Maraming magpaparinig , umaasa na may magaaya sa kanila ng "Dit" (date in english). Paulit ulit lang naman yan kada taon, pero ni minsan ba, naisip mo and mga natatagong katotohanan at kamalian na naiidulot ng maling pag diriwang ng Balentayms day? Every year on February 14, millions of people celebrate Valentine’s Day. People believe that this day is the most romantic and wonderful time to make a declaration of love, dance, sing, kiss and feel love running through their veins. Everyone dreams of spending this day in a special and unforgettable way. They buy flowers, colorful ribbons, balloons and stickers to decorate their offices, streets, houses and restaurants. I’m not the one who hates Valentine’s Day, but I prefer to think rationally and remain reasonable in different situations. Have you ever tried to understand why Valentine’s Day is so overrated all over the world? I think that this extraordinary day is a nice opportunity for pop culture, TV shows, magazines and websites to increase their popularity ratings. The efforts of mass media to make this holiday special exert big influence on a human mind and shape public opinion. As a result, many people find this holiday significant and symbolic. I have many single friends who don’t like this day. They often say that social and mass media overrate the importance of Valentine’s Day and it has a negative effect on their moods. It’s hard to believe, but even Valentine’s Day has a dark side. Here are 5 reasons why Valentine's day is so overrated 1. Everyone gets the same sh*t.Hindi mo na nga kailangan mag log in sa facebook at iba pang social media dahil alam mo na ang makikita mo, flowers(from Dangwa), chocolates, Balentayms Card, OOTDs .There's nothing wrong with being spoiled by your significant other; it's sweet. But if you're going to partake in Valentine's Day, pag isipan mo naman and do something unique to really show how you feel. Grabbing a few items from the pink and red aisle at the store doesn't require much attention and can be done by anybody. 2. There shouldn't be just one day dedicated to do something special.You should be showing your significant other how much you care every day ok? Araw Araw hindi lang tuwing Balentayms Day Ang nangyayari kasi is people just set one day to try to make up for their lack of romance on other days by going big when everyone's watching (pag alam mo na may nagaabang sa post mo about your valentine's day, ayaw mo din kasi magpahuli). Don't wait until then to pull out all the stops. Plus, doing nice things when it's not expected is even more special. 00:00 000 3. It makes those not in relationships feel crappy.When I hear people complain about being single on Valentine's Day, I always want to tell them that they're not missing out on anything and that it's just like Feb. 13 and 15. Because they're not, and it is. If it really is a big deal to you, make the day about celebrating you instead of allowing yourself to feel bad . 4. It's unnecessarily stressful.One partner usually has expectations, while the other is trying to figure out what they're going to do. The commercial holiday puts pressure on both sides and takes away from any meaning, if there is any. If couples choose to do Valentine's Day, it should be about celebrating the relationship and not about impressing. 5. Valentine's Day isn't even about hearts and flowers.No one really knows its exact origin, but all versions are pretty dark. According to NPR, the rRomans celebrated the feast of Lupercalia by hitting women with animal hides. Two martyrs named Valentine were executed on Feb. 14 but in different years in third century AD and were remembered with St. Valentine's Day. The celebration was later combined with Lupercalia. 6. It's more about showing off than showing love.Let's be real, Valentine's Day is when people brag about all the things they received that day and when partners get a special shout-out on social media for being so sweet. It's all about material things and shiny gifts, not about the actual relationship. So the next time you're feeling bad about not having a valentine, don't sweat it. It sucks anyway I am guilty of this crime too. 10 yrs from now, i dare you to walk out in the streets.... then ask anyone randomly, how they remember their lives 10yrs back , you will probably get a blank stare....why? Because 10yrs back, they were probably too busy documenting their lives for other people to see. They have experienced their lives through the screens of their camera phones..tablets... They have forgotten to be there, right there, at that very moment of their finite lives. The emotional overtones of daily events have been lost. The smell of a good breakfast forgotten. The cold water rushing to your feet never recalled. Taking photographs at a birthday or a wedding has become as natural as blowing out candles or cutting the cake. But our obsession with recording every detail of our happiest moments could be damaging our ability to remember them, according to new research. A study has shown that taking pictures rather than concentrating fully on the events in front of us prevents memories taking hold. Dr Linda Henkel, from Fairfield University, Connecticut, described it as the "photo-taking impairment effect". She said: "People so often whip out their cameras almost mindlessly to capture a moment, to the point that they are missing what is happening right in front of them. It is never wrong to keep a record of your memories but make sure you also leave some for you brain to remember. Take snapshots of it through your eyes instead of your camera lenses and you will be surprised on how high definition it is. Let emotions be your filter , real people and events , your hashtags and the let the smile on their faces be your likes. Don't stop living your life. Memories belong in your head, not in someone else's wall :
Just a bonus content for you, Here is a my shot of a full moon :)
My sister's name is Diane, Mom's name is Lina, Dad's name is Rodrigo , and of course yours truly is Charles :)
Please feel free to post any pic of yours as well. Im an orthopedic surgeon, but it wont change the fact that I'm just like you and everybody else !
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